From the album Wishbone
This is a breakup anthem that accidentally reveals the speaker has not moved on at all. The whole song is addressed TO the ex while claiming 'I don't have you in mind.' The harder he insists he's free, the clearer it becomes that every decision he makes is still measured against what this person thinks. He's replaced one form of approval-seeking with another.
I found approval as a remedy / Every fucking person I would have to please / Maybe I got that from you
He names the pattern but still doesn't see he's trapped in it. The admission that needing approval was learned behavior does nothing to break the cycle. He's just swapped seeking this person's approval for seeking everyone else's.
All my self-assessment on your thought of me / Couldn't tell you who I was before
This might be the most honest line in the song. The problem is not just the breakup. It's that his entire identity was constructed around this person's gaze, and without it, there's no foundation left.
You got your revenge by being stuck with your life / So, you can keep drinking and living a lie
The cruelty here is surgical. He's cataloging the ex's flaws in detail while claiming 'I really don't mind.' If you truly didn't care, you wouldn't know what they drink or how they talk to their friends. This is surveillance dressed as indifference.
It's my world and it's my life / I don't have you in mind
The repetition is doing the opposite of what it claims. Saying 'I don't have you in mind' eight times in a song proves you absolutely do. The protest is the evidence. Real freedom wouldn't need this much insistence.
The tragedy is not that he hasn't moved on. It's that he thinks declaring independence is the same as actually having it. The song ends with the same refrain it started with, which tells you everything. He's still exactly where he began, just louder about pretending he's not.